Comforting Remembrance
Welcome back to another blog. This week I’ll be focusing on comforting remembrance for those that have lost someone dear to them. So, if you’d like to know more about conforming remembrance and ways you can offer support to anyone dealing with loss right now, then please keep reading.
Ideas to help comfort in times of loss
When we lose someone we love, it can feel very isolating. Often those around us that we see on a daily basis, struggle with knowing how to behave towards us which can often lead to avoidance.
When faced with this, it can honestly feel like nothing will bring us comfort. But there are a few simply ideas that may just help.
Writing: After suffering the loss of three very close family members within 6 months of each other, I turned to writing to get me through. I started by writing letters to each of them, scrapbooking precious memories and then went on to write my first book (mentioned below). Writing and off-loading thoughts and feelings can be very therapeutic especially when we feel like there is nobody to talk to who truly understands.
Walking: When dealing with loss it can often feel easier to shut ourselves off from the rest of the world and stay in doors, but walking can offer peace and quiet whilst releasing endorphins which are proven to have a positive effect on mood.
Cooking: If we are forced to take some time away from work to address bereavement and process Grief, taking up a new interest can be a nice idea. When you Iack motivation to do anything, eating well and focusing on nutrition is hugely important to keep us going. So why not do some cooking? Cooking can be very relaxing and can also help address lack of sleep and be of benefit to all the family.
The Importance of Remembrance
Remembrance by its very description is the action of remembering something. I’m confident I speak on behalf of many people when I say that one of my biggest fears when losing my mother was forgetting many of the happy memories that we shared together.
As I have mentioned in previous blogs, the effect of trauma on the brain can heavily impact happy memories and memory recall.
Remembrance is a reminder to actively remember those for who they were, to rejoice in happy memories and share stories and photographs of them, celebrating the positive impact that those dearly lost had on our lives.
Whilst poignant and difficult, remembrance reminds us that those dearly departed will always be celebrated in memory.
The Benefit of Guided Remembrance
As I’ve spoken about previously, when dealing with the loss of a loved one, it is often impossible to function in the way we would normally. Whether the person we have lost died unexpectedly or following a long illness, trauma can hugely impact on our cognitive function. Often those of us with young families end up running on ‘Autopilot’ just to keep going, meaning our own wellbeing, thoughts and feelings fall to the back of the queue.
Guided remembrance can be hugely beneficial, as it takes the pressure off of us to know how to process loss. Guided remembrance books such as ‘If Heaven had a Postcode’ are designed to hold your hand through loss, offering a safe place of comfort where you can document your feelings and emotions and learn to turn them into uplifting remembrance of a dearly loved one.
If Heaven had a Postcode series of love loss and uplifting remembrance
If Heaven had a Postcode is the perfect companion if you have lost someone special. I really encourage you to take a look. I wrote this book when affected by the loss of my own mother and when desperately seeking comfort for me and my young son.
If Heaven had a Postcode is a remembrance book with a difference.
It allows us to keep the memory of a much-loved person alive and also assists by keeping them part of our seasonal routine moving forward, encouraging the writing of letters, the planting of memorial seeds and cherishing special memories throughout the seasons.
If Heaven had a Postcode is the perfect guided companion as it promotes regular contact with our own emotions and memories of that person that build a lasting and loving tribute to them and keep their memory alive always.
Keeping in touch with those special memories can help to prevent feelings of overwhelm when birthdays and painful reminders arise.
Involving relatives and children also impacted by loss can strengthen family bonds and promote the sharing of happy memories together.
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As always, thank you so much for being here today. I hope that this blog has provided some more information on comforting remembrance, and I hope that if you too have lost someone close to you that my blogs might offer some support in any way.
With love,
Sabrina