How to deal with Mother’s Day after your Mother passes away

Welcome back to another Blog and below I’ll sharing my own tips and advice on how to handle Mother’s Day after your mother passes away. So, if you’d like some self-soothing tips and advice for surviving the day then keep reading. 

A message of support 

Firstly, I would like to take this opportunity to say I’m so sorry. If you have lost your Mum or someone dearly close to you then please know you are not alone. I upload three blogs weekly on my website and I hope that by tuning in, then you might find some words of support or some advice and tips that might offer you comfort at this time. 

Should I still celebrate Mother’s Day? 

We all approach grief differently. There is no right or wrong when it comes to dealing with annual celebration days. Some of us choose to hide away or distract ourselves with other things whilst others will take comfort in remembering that special lady who was in our life. Whichever you choose to do, then your feelings are valid and again please know you are not alone. 

How can I celebrate Mother’s Day? 

For some of us the simple act of lighting a candle can be a nice way to remember that special person or perhaps lighting a candle and listening to a special playlist might provide a place of comfort to reflect on precious memories. 

Others may choose to lay flowers, spray their mother’s perfume or reflect on photographs of special memories. These are all lovely ways to remember them.

For those of us who feel a little lost then perhaps some of the above suggestions may give you some ideas of your own?

If Heaven had a Postcode 

Another idea I’d like to share with you is my flagship book ‘if Heaven Had a postcode’. This ‘more than a memorial book’ is the perfect gift to buy yourself in loving memory of your mother or another loved one that has passed away. 

With 88 pages packed full of memorial ideas, forget-me-not-seeds, seeded Birthday postcards and self-reflection techniques. This book is the perfect way to remember someone, and the best bit is that the book is designed to be refilled year after year. 

Sadly, memorial flowers will die, but memories will not and with ‘If Heaven had a Postcode’ you’ll keep those memories burning forever. 

What if I don’t want to celebrate Mother’s Day? 

For those of us that simply don’t want to celebrate then know that those feelings are valid and shared by many others.

Shop signage, email inboxes and TV advertising can overwhelm us at the best of times but on Days such as Mother’s Day it can be hard not to take it personally. 

If it all gets too much, I encourage you to reach out to friends and other family members for support and to focus on self-care. You are important and you are not alone. 

Do something nice for yourself on Mother’s Day and recognise how much you’ve been through. 

I hope this blog has given you some suggestions on how to deal with Mother’s Day after your mother has passed away. 

However, you choose to spend the day, remember the special memories you shared together and the love you will always have. 

Sabrina x